queeret - a global movement for queer introverts
A global community for queer introverts.

qalm // how we gather

qalm is our signature monthly event - part sober gathering, part togetherness, part space to slow down. designed especially for introverts.


what is qalm?

qalm™ (pronounced - calm) is our signature monthly event -- part sober gathering. part togetherness. part space to slow down. designed for queer introverts. 

many spaces for queer people are charged with intensely loud music, flashing lights, and flowing drinks.

that sort of vibe is totally fine. qalm™ is just a bit different.

it’s a gathering where meaningful conversation can happen. no loud music to talk over. a place where the senses are calmed, instead of overloaded.

a time for queer people to simply be together.

what to expect at qalm.

  1. chill music // i.e. Enya or low-level, calm beats

  2. beverages + pastries // think chai, coffee, and tea

  3. qonversation cards // taking conversations below the surface

  4. a posture of welcome // learn about our values

  5. new friends // make new queer friends

  • The gathering is 2 hours and come-and-go as you like

  • In the evening -- typically 8-10pm (friendly for non-night owls)

  • Usually hosted at a cafe or coffee shop


Qalm™ was full of humans who were incredibly welcoming. There was so much laughter in the room.

I left feeling like I ate a really delicious meal without the heart burn and bloat. I felt light and hopeful that spaces like this can really exist.
— Aimee, Brooklyn
It’s a place you can meet new friends but you don’t have to yell in the process like at bars or one restaurants.

I love that people were down to talk about vulnerable matters. It felt like a safe place to be and relax even with people I just met.
— Kei, Queens
The intention was felt as soon as I walked into the room. The vibe was so lovely, and it felt like everyone came with open hearts. I feel like I made new queer, introvert friends!

After leaving, I felt a sense of lightness into my weekend. I felt like I went out without that meaning going out for drinks or an expensive dinner.
— Sunny, Manhattan
If you are looking to have meaningful conversations with other queer introverts, you should definitely check out qalm.

I loved being able to authentically connect with other people while really being present. The city can be so isolating and distracting at times, and it was nice to slow down and just be around other queer people. This event really lifted my spirits.
— Andrew, Manhattan
qalm™ is that lovely scented candle moment that you envision for yourself on a rainy evening indoors. The environment is set to ease you into conversations with fellow queer New Yorkers at whatever pace you feel comfortable at. It’s a simple response to the loud, highly stimulated, and, often times, overwhelming queer hangouts in NYC.

: I liked most the sense of community with qalm where all voices are respected and celebrated, louder or softer. After leaving the event I felt my sense of self was rounded out and balanced, like I expressed myself in a comfortable, new way.
— Kevin, NYC